ATTRACTION HAS EXPIRY DATE

We’re quite familiar with the famous scripture in the book of Genesis that talks about how a man eventually has to leave his dad and mom to cleave to his wife. Single people find it really exciting. Howbeit, one thing to note in that scripture is this: though it pointed out that a man would have to leave dad and mom and cleave to his wife, it didn’t equally point out the hurdles a man would have to go through to do that.

Adam was such a lucky guy. All it took for him to have a woman was A NAP. He was made to go into a deep sleep where he had a nice dream about the kind of woman he desired. By the time he woke up, the woman was there, right in front of him. He went to her, grabbed her by the hand and was like: “At last, here is one of my own kind: bone taken from my bone, and flesh from my flesh. Woman is her name because she was taken out of man.”

Let’s take a long jump to the case of Isaac and Rebecca. Being absolutely uninterested in CHASING and CONQUERING a woman in order to leave his parents and cleave to her, Isaac tarried till age 40 without as much as an ex-girlfriend. Abraham had to do to Isaac what God did to Adam in the garden of Eden. He arranged for a woman to be brought to him. The woman was brought to him and THEY GOT MARRIED just like that: no chasing, no toasting, no nothing!

The bible says; “Then Isaac brought Rebecca into the tent that his mother Sarah had lived in, and she became his wife.” But those kinds of scenarios HARDLY play out nowadays. A guy has to do some work to win a lady’s heart before there can be a marriage. That’s not a problem though. Guys arguably do not want the process of winning a lady’s heart to come off so easily. But there’s something about the said process that can be very unlikeable.

When a girl makes the process of winning her heart to seem like a greater task than attaining ETERNAL LIFE, it becomes irritable. Don’t get me wrong, I know that teaching about the female eagle: how it puts the male through a series of tests before succumbing to his advances. It’s a nice teaching. I love it: if not for anything, for the fact that I’m going to have daughters someday and wouldn’t want them jumping into the arms of just about any man that comes around.

But there’s a limit to what a man can take from a woman in the name of LOVE or WHATEVER. Just so you know, ATTRACTION HAS EXPIRY DATE. That a man is HEAD OVER HEELS for a woman today doesn’t mean he’s gonna be like that forever. If a woman goes OVERBOARD with her HARD TO GET game, it’s just a matter of time before the man loses attraction for her and she loses a potential partner. A preacher’s daughter once wrote:

“Single lady, there’s nothing wrong in being HARD TO GET, as long as you’re being gracious in your words and actions. But the real problem is when you’re HARD TO KEEP. As you’re making YANGA for him, make sure you’re worth the stress. Don’t deliberately act in TERRIBLE AND ARROGANT MANNERS to see if he will keep loving you, saying: IF HE LOVES ME, HE’LL COPE WITH IT. He’s not JESUS and it’s not ANOINTING OIL that flows in his veins.”

“He can get tired and package his ANOINTED LOVE and PROPOSAL and SHOVE IT UP HIS SLEEVES. There’s a limit to ENDURANCE. Forget all those PALESTINIAN MOVIES and TELEMUNDO DECEPTION OF LOVE. I’m not saying you have to be perfect. I’m saying you should be willing to grow, change, and adjust. A BAD ATTITUDE IS NOT YOUR INBORN TALENT. You can CHANGE. While it’s hard to get you, IT SHOULD BE EASY TO LOVE YOU.”

It was so refreshing to read that from a woman. I quickly tagged what she wrote THE MINDSET EVERY SINGLE WOMAN SHOULD HAVE. The problem, however, is that many single ladies do not exactly subscribe to this SCHOOL OF THOUGHT. A good number of them are more desirous of HAVING THEIR VANITIES FED than upholding core values. The CRAVE FOR UNDUE ATTENTION from MANY MEN wouldn’t let them pitch their tent with ONE MAN.

They think that if they do so, the attention they get from men either diminishes or gets interfered with by the man they pitch their tent with. So they play the SEDUCTRESS, keeping everything VAGUE: neither giving in nor backing out. Giving in means sacrificing other men’s attention for one man’s attention. Backing out means sacrificing one man’s attention for other men’s attention. The sad thing, however, is that these men don’t keep showering them attention forever.

At some point, they lose interest, probably because they aren’t getting what they want from the girl. Consequently, the number of guys showering attention on a girl reduces and it suddenly dawns on her that she NEEDS TO HOOK ONE OF THEM DOWN before the number of men showering attention on her drops to ZERO. This is the time she decides to COMMIT TO AN ADMIRER who had been patient enough to wait until there were no more men to give her attention.

At this point, one of two things happens: it’s either the LEFTOVER ADMIRERS will TURN THE TABLE and play the SEDUCER as the girl had once done, keeping everything vague: neither giving in nor backing out; or they PRETEND TO COMMIT TO HER, only to BREAK HER HEART eventually. Fact is: a smart guy knows when he’s a girl’s last resort, and he’s likely to pay her back with her own coin. Look around very well, it’s the ladies that cry more about being victims of this game. At the same time, it’s a game they love to play. They just don’t like to be the victims.

So, how about we call it quits with the mind games and vainness and keep things real with each other? We might belong to an ABSURD GENERATION. But if we stopped behaving absurdly, our generation wouldn’t be tagged so. I know that winning a girl’s heart certainly won’t be as easy as it was for ADAM and ISAAC. But when a man comes knocking at the door of a girl’s heart and she stalls him, thinking he’s gonna wait around forever, she might wanna think again. ATTRACTION HAS EXPIRY DATE!!!